February 7, 2012

Text Messaging for dating: 7 tips to be playful and engaging

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The following article about text messages comes from an excerpt from my book Become That Guy: Become Irresistibly Attractive and also covers principles that are demonstrated in my field reports and in my seminar on text messaging. Why should you use text messages? Since it can often be hard to reach someone on the phone, [...]

It’s a game of give and take

  It’s a game of give and take – give someone the opportunity to give so they can get to like you Perhaps you have heard the song “You Can’t Hurry Love”  originally by The Supremes.  “It’s a game of give and take.” I wondered. A dilemma in dating and in life is that often [...]

Relationships: Keeping the Girl, if She’s Really a keeper

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Oftentimes I have been asked. Now that I’ve “gotten the girl,” how do I “keep her?” I think a better question to ask isn’t how you keep her, but how do you maintain a healthy satisfying relationship that’s giving you and the other person what you currently want and need. No matter what promises or [...]

No Strings Attached: How to Have Friends With Benefits Relationships

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One question I have often been asked is how to develop “no strings attached”  or “friends with benefits” relationships and how to maintain them over time. Oftentimes it is hard to keep the relationship primarily sexual without one or both parties (or more in some cases) getting emotionally involved. Often it turns into a sexually [...]

Take her home, she won’t be fooled by excuses

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One thing that gets in the way of success for many guys is a limiting belief that women don’t really like sex that much or somehow have to be bribed or talked into it.  This message has been reinforced in pop culture many times over, and it is understandable how a man could think that [...]

What do women want? It’s not that different from what men want

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If you listen enough to the media and some people Society men and women are very different in how they think and what they look for. While books like Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus make some useful points, oftentimes our media and individuals focus on the differences between men and women more [...]

3 Reasons Why You Get and Stay “Stuck”

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Why do people stay stuck in spite of a stated desire to achieve a certain goal? Here are a few reasons I have found when people keep getting stuck on the same sticking points. These reasons apply not just to relationships with women, but to all kinds of bad habits or unproductive behaviors and beliefs. [...]

Are you waiting to be "good" with women before Attempting to Meet Any?

One common concern I have gotten from guys who are working to have more power and choice in their interactions with women is that they don’t think they are “ready” to meet women yet. Or they keep opening or attempting to learn “the skills” without continuing to escalate the interaction toward what they want. This [...]

Are you Playing to Win or to not lose?

“Glance at what you might have to lose, but focus on what you want to win.” This quote by the U.S. General George Patton during World War II was a response to his take on the British General Montgomery. Montgomery was so afraid to lose that he did not take the steps necessary to win. [...]

Meet women on the dance floor – even if you can’t dance

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This article comes from an answer to a question I got from one of my coaching clients requesting a road map on how to pickup a woman on the dance floor and lead her toward being with you.  Here is my response, also some of the same moves are demonstrated in my story: The Redhead [...]