Suggesting Sex Toys To Your Partner
Sex toys can be major assets to your sex life, but most people hesitate to purchase sex toys in the first place if they have never had them before or do not have a good shop in their town.
I remember my first experience at an adult toy store a few years ago while on a business trip. I stopped by a store in Greenwich Village in Manhattan on a whim after lunch. I asked about a cock ring and the clerk, a sassy gay guy, told me to try it on. When I asked him if I was putting it on right, he poked his head around the curtain and sassily told me that it was a cock ring not a tourniquet.
Now, I thought this was actually pretty funny, and at least I did learn, however I can see how many people might be embarrassed or nervous to go shopping, so a relevant website like Adam and Eve offers a more private place to start to browse and see what’s out there. There is plenty of information online about different types of toys, how to use them, where to buy them, and anything else you may want to know.
Then, once you have some toys, you will have to figure out how to introduce them into sexual practice, which can be a delicate process. When you have a new sexual partner, for example, you may feel self-conscious about immediately suggesting the use of your sex toys. So when do you bring them out, and how do you introduce the idea?
Not only can this variety of information help you from an educational standpoint, but it can also help you to feel more comfortable with making your initial purchase. Then it will just be up to you to bring up the idea of using your toys with your sexual partner.
If you already have a partner, or you are already in a relationship, you would likely actually benefit from discussing the idea of sex toys with him or her before you actually buy them. When you are in an ongoing relationship, it is important to be as honest as possible about your sex life, from the beginning. It also helps if you are comfortable with what you are doing. So look around internet websites, stores and blogs for things that you find appealing.
You can also send them a link to something or even browse through a website or online store while you are still naked in bed. Playfully sexy is a good way to go.
Your ability to be comfortable and knowledgeable will help shape how your partner responds if they are initially a little unsure. Also you never know, once you bring it up you may be surprised to learn that the person you are with has more of a naughty side that was just waiting to be brought out.
If instead you are buying toys simply to have on hand for various sexual encounters, make sure that you use materials that are easy to clean and / or keep them in their original packaging if they haven’t been used before. Some may not want to use ones that others have used before even if they are made of materials that can easily be cleaned and sanitized. “I don’t know where that thing has been.”
Furthermore, it is certainly a good idea to give the impression that you are suggesting, rather than requesting the use of toys. In other words it’s not about either one of your being inadequate, more like you are curious. A new partner is far more likely to respond well to the idea of using toys if he or she feels confident about the experience.
